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The big take away, I think, is noticing that the loop can be interrupted at any stage. There's no point-of-no-return. No matter where we find ourselves in the cycle, there's a chance to bring attention to experience in a way that will lead to better outcomes in the future. Over time, we may learn to catch the cycle much faster and earlier on. This is usually the case. But sometimes we don't catch it, and it's really fast! - so there's no shame in catching it later. There is always an opportunity to step in with applied attention, which is just the kind of skillful intention one needs to dismantle the cycle.
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I'm aware that we're talking about what is helpful in the current moment regardless of the "place" one is in, but I like to make sure the focus in on the ultimate prize, though I'm pretty sure I overdo that most of the time
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Not to get all huggy again, but YES!
I think this is the fist important insight of practice; that the content spin can be cut-through. This is the "mind and body" stage in Mahasi vipassana. It's not just seeing that thoughts are different from gross form, but that both are "object" rather than "subject." That does some funky things to one's state of consciousness the first few times around.
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I agree.
I think what I was trying to say was that mindfulness of body is necessary for insight, but not sufficient. The same way that water is necessary for human life, but not sufficient - we need food, too.
Would you agree?
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emotion is seen by contrast. Positive emotions (like joy) are wildly
different than depression..."
I've developed a theory that we are blinded by a bias toward contrast, opposition, and discontinuity-- the logic of the excluded middle is built into our language to the degree that it takes some retraining to even consider that there is a continuum of anything we can experience, and there is no opposition inherent in difference. And what is 'good' about a thing, a reaction, an emotion, is its appropriateness to the given circumstance. Joy at the death of a parent is likely to be less appropriate than grief and depression. Depression upon achieving one's heart's desire is an incentive to look further into the situation and what is truly to be desired. I guess this is bringing the 'theory of relativity' on home to personal life.
It's possible that the relentless scanning for discontinuities and overreacting to them is the result of having been a relatively fragile species for most of our history, on the lookout for bigger, better-armed predators. If we can grow into a attitude of curiosity and interest toward the full spectrum of what is possible [short of actual physical harm, of course] it opens out our world in an amazing way. There is a great deal of our lives that we don't actually experience-- we grab at or shove away what we assume know[/b]'] it is.
Something curious happened to me awhile back: I was in the position of having to 'just do it' and move past my performance anxiety. It was more-or-less the failure I'd expected-- except for one thing: when my wobbly voice cracked as I sang my little song, the audience started singing with me. Almost as if they were delighted to be called upon; it was a lovely little moment of generosity, about which no one felt the need to say anything.
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I gradually lost that nervousness about performance. I don't recall any particular practice or strategy that changed things. Though I did have to start teaching at a point and that was a sort of practice - three days a week standing in front of thirty students trying to get them to answer questions and participate in discussion. Perhaps their clumsiness and shyness made me realize I wasn't *that* bad off and gave me confidence. When towards the end of the semester I had to lecture to the whole hall of 300 students (my first time ever speaking to a group that large) I totally enjoyed it. I had my whole talk written up and it was on a subject I was very enthusiastic about and knew well, and I was totally surprised that the same adrenaline that used to be associated with anxiety this time just gave me a sort of invigorated buzz.
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My public speaking realization was people want to feel your body as they watch you, so I try to embody what they want to feel: joy in being able to talk to others, interest in the subject, and openness to any new idea. It makes a huge difference to take the orientation of service, as opposed to doing something "to" them. And people woulds rather see someone honestly "failing" rather than shmoozing and covering up, just being honest is probably the biggest thing.
there is no opposition inherent in difference
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That's it. One taste, this does not collide with that. (I'm not there, but still I can sense what home feels like.)
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I love these stories!
My public speaking realization was people want to feel your body as they watch you, so I try to embody what they want to feel: joy in being able to talk to others, interest in the subject, and openness to any new idea.
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That's an interesting way to look at it. The other is perhaps more animal. When we see someone else acting frightened we unconsciously wonder where the danger is and whether we are also in danger. This is in many ways a very sensible reaction! How we release that tension (with empathy, anger, frustration, kindness, etc) depends on the evaluation of the danger, our self-awareness, our past experiences, our upbringing and so on.
That film I watched the other night (Flight from Death, mentioned in another thread) spent a good deal of time on this: how people react to their own fear being triggered when they see potential danger, albeit it focused on more extreme examples, such as seeing the danger of bodily harm in war, illness, etc.
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