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EDIT: I'm relistening.. 41:30 I think is where the discussion begins... but clicking through I couldn't find the mention of syria test, unfortunately... but it is in there.
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Chris Marti wrote: Yes, that's generally what people mean, I think, by, "There is pain but no suffering." But isn't that a rather confusing way to express the underlying process and result?
I guess it's a matter of what people find clarifying. It was clarifying for me, but it is confusing if we think of "suffering" from the vantage point of the term's usual meaning in English. So I'd rather call it dukkha. Dukkha is, to me, that paralyzingly gripping of the gut, that sense of suffocation I get when my belief in self is under attack, real or imagined. It can be very subtle, or it can be overwhelming. It's what shame and embarrassment are made of. I can remember years ago reading a review of another scholar's work and feeling the heart rate accelerating, my breathing getting jagged, and a distinct feeling of being threatened at the very fact that another scholar in my field was being praised. It took me a moment to figure it out, because she wasn't in direct competition with me.
I used to get this feeling when people I liked or supported were being undermined. It really wreaked havoc in my married life, because I would identify with what I thought my husband might be feeling, and engage in this huge emotional reaction, which was the opposite of helpful. Once when my then 10-year-old son was disinvited from a birthday party I got upset, yet my son just sort of shrugged it off, and felt uncomfortable with my reaction.
Since waking up I have had none of this, even though I have experienced grief, physical pain, and even depression. It's not simply that I accept these things, it's that I experience them in their purity, without the overlay of me, mine, myself. The depression is a feeling of listlessness, but there is no corresponding thought process that starts in saying stuff like "this is awful, I'll never feel better, I'm a big failure, blah, blah blah." I sometimes feel curious about the way certain things have turned out. I also wonder where things will go from here. The wife of an acquaintance is dying of cancer, and I know that could just as easily be me. She was full of hope and high spirits, ready to take on the challenge of beating this thing, and now she's in hospice. I say this not to denigrate her spirit, but rather to recognize that we all live for awhile, and then at some point we die. We don't know how or when. We thus can hold up and support one another as best we can.
When I look back on my relationship with dukkha, it's as if I was insane. Now the insanity has lifted and I can see it as such. I don't know if everyone else is or has been as insane as I was, but I know I was, and while I am not perfect in any sense of that word, I am now able to tell the difference between being insane and not being insane. So that is what dukkha means to this yogi.
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I'm not trying to denigrate anyone's experience but I am thinking about what I see as language that is accepted by many practitioners but that is very confusing without having been acculturated to the club. I see this language as being powerful, so powerful that it generates misunderstanding, leading to people taking formulations like "there is pain but no suffering" literally. Maybe there's a different way to describe what we now know?
Another similar formulation is this one: "There is no self."
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When I look back on my relationship with dukkha, it's as if I was insane. Now the insanity has lifted and I can see it as such. I don't know if everyone else is or has been as insane as I was, but I know I was, and while I am not perfect in any sense of that word, I am now able to tell the difference between being insane and not being insane. So that is what dukkha means to this yogi.
I'm reasonably certain that my understanding of dukkha is similar. I personally define dukkha as the process of artificially sectioning off a portion of the dancing, flickering field of sensate reality as a separate "entity" or "self." It is an illusion, a shadow, and yet it seems very real. Since reality is always in flux, this self is constantly threatened by change and fear of annihilation. It's as if a small ripple in the ocean has tried to prop itself up as separate from the waves.
How did this happen? A natural process of brain chemistry and human development? Or is it an illusion that we have carried across the worlds for eons? Or perhaps a quirk of quantum physics? I don't think there's any easy answer to these questions, nor do I think that it really matters what the answer is, as long as one practices well.
Vipassana debunks the illusion of a separate self.
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I'm waiting to find out what to do with myself next. In the meantime, I still have a job, for awhile longer, and I am committed to doing it well.
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-Marlo Stanfield (Character)
The Wire by David Simon
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David Eagleman is a neuroscientist.
www.pbs.org/the-brain-with-david-eaglema...des/what-is-reality/
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It laughs at its own jokes.
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Kenneth Folk wrote: This Kennething is an eddy in a stream.
Yes! >joy<
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Kenneth Folk wrote: It rubs the lotion on its skin. It watches German instructional videos.
It laughs at its own jokes.
I thought this was a "Silence of the Lambs" reference at first.
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Jake Yeager wrote:
Kenneth Folk wrote: It rubs the lotion on its skin. It watches German instructional videos.
It laughs at its own jokes.
I thought this was a "Silence of the Lambs" reference at first.
It is a Silence of the Lambs Reference. That's why it was laughing at its own joke.
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No one would think to ask.
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